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scott

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Mon Jan 07, 2008 11:02 am

erb you are doing a great job here. Someone in a thread had asked about doing some social work. why not join erb now? This is really commendable i see.
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Social security, bank account, and credit card numbers aren't just data. In the wrong hands they can wipe out someone's life savings, wreck their credit and cause financial ruin.

goodnatured

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Mon Jan 07, 2008 11:39 am

Good morning scott and welcome back to the forum, have not seen you here in awhile.

erb,
You do a great job with your people hope you are hope you feel rewarded in your work.

Coffeebean,
Welcome to the forum, what a powerful post, thank you for joining us and sharing it with us. You are right, we do go through an entire cycle, I never really thought about it like this. Pondered the birth to death cycle but not the full living cycle. Ideally I think this is the way it is supposed to be, LOL. Some chose to stay at home forever and never leave the nest though. But I think if you do a good job as a parent, your children feel powerful and independant enough to take the world on and try to develop their own households. Hope you choose to stay around for a long time, good to have you here.
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Dadummy

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Subject: careing for the elderly

Mon Jan 07, 2008 6:41 pm

i just had to come and tell you that there will be a lot more elderly people forced to go to nurseing homes because of the prices going up on everything they just cant afford it and theres not enough help out there for them. even younger people cant afford to deal with older parents because most families require both people to work. the government doest really care they all have big retirements and saveings and who knows what else they have saved up in iras or foriegn bank accounts, stocks anywhere they can store money.

sdchargers_63

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Subject: parents

Mon Jan 07, 2008 8:39 pm

I live in PA, as most of you know. If my parents needed me to care for them, i would move back home ( CA). There shouldn't be any reason for my parents to go to a nursing home. They raised me and supported me....when ( and if ) it came to the point where THEY needed care, it would MY turn to care for them. I also have 2 sisters that live near my parents. What I do for a living?....I take care of the elderly. It's a very rewarding job. Not the 'greatest' pay, in the world, but...money isn't everything. SOOO many people need help and not enough people willing to do that. We help these people, so they DON'T need to go to Nursing Homes. My opionion..of course.

Dadummy

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Subject: elderly care

Tue Jan 08, 2008 12:16 am

im really pleased to see how many people responded to this article. i hope thats an indecation of the whole population in the country. so many old people have to set in old age homes alone for years because no one has time to go visit. i know because i use to work in one and there were so many people that never got a visit in the three years i was there. i remember getting christmas gifts for them one year and you would be amazed at howc much a single pair of socks meant to them. you could tell they hadnt had a gift in a long time. please dont forget that because thier old and cannot take care of themselves that they still can feel rejection is one of the biggest hurts there is in the world, i guess it doesnt matter how old you are for rejection to hurt. thank you all who responded

goodnatured

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Tue Jan 08, 2008 1:32 am

Many many people are put into homes and left to die more or less, younger kids don't feel they should be responsible. sdchargers, your parents are lucky to have such a kind caring daughter who feels the debt that she owes her parents, good for you.

I think people benefit more at home, only problem is that I would have to fight mine for my computer, well, I have two of them, guess I could stick her in the back room on that one, LOL, just kidding.

I drive past two homes everyday on the way to work, I get job orders all the time at work because the turn over is so high because the pay is so low. Makes you wonder where the heck all the social security checks go to that these folks were receiving before they were sent there, sure isn't spent on wages or benefits.
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sdchargers_63

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Subject: elderly

Tue Jan 08, 2008 2:54 am

I talk to my family, at least, 3 or 4 times a week. I am very close to my parents and sisters ( I'm the middle one of three girls). When Southern CA had all of those terrible fires, I was SOO terrified for my family! My parents and 1 sister, brother-in-law and kids had to evacuate!! All I could do was watch on TV my home town being burnt to the ground!! For a few days, I couldn't get a hold of ANYONE in my family!! Phone lines were down and Cell phones were bombarded!! FINALLY......getting to talk to them was a blessing!! Nobody, in my family lost their homes, either!!

Dadummy

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Sat Jan 12, 2008 9:13 pm

did you see where those two guys wheeled thier dead friend to the bank to cash his social security check. they were drugies and needed some money . i laughed but this is not funny this is abuse of a corspe. i bet they wont get any thing out of it because they claimed they didnt know he was dead. come on what is the world comeing to. did any one else see this. makes you wonder how much more goes on out there we dont hear about.

erb1953

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Sun Jan 13, 2008 12:02 am

Yes I seen that, about fell on the floor, I could not believe it. It is amazing what people will do for drug money, they both were 65 year old herion addicts. They have probably lived their whole lives like this, what a shame. I just can not imagine.

I am sure there is worse than that goes on in New York inner city, you have all kinds of people there. I just think it is terrible how drugs can ruin some ones life like that.

Dadummy

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Wed Jan 23, 2008 9:44 pm

Im working at a senior center at the present and its amazeing how well some of our older people get around today we had them exerciseing and i couldnt keep up with them. some of them were in thier ninties. theres a senior apartment building where they live. they come down every day. Im amazed if only our young people would be that spry.

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Thu Jan 24, 2008 12:34 am

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Someone in a thread had asked about doing some social work

this is about as much into social work as I get! Very Happy

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i know because i use to work in one and there were so many people that never got a visit in the three years i was there. i remember getting christmas gifts for them one year and you would be amazed at howc much a single pair of socks meant to them.

Do you think it is because the socks came with a visit, I think they are tucked away and forgotten about by the outside world.

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did you see where those two guys wheeled thier dead friend to the bank to cash his social security check.

People will do anything for drugs, LOL.

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Thu Jan 24, 2008 9:41 am

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Lunchtime

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Fri Jan 25, 2008 2:49 am

It can be a struggle sometimes to wonder what makes a person desert an elderly parent, some are put into homes and never get a visit, do we forget that this woman or man raised us, we should be able to take a few hours on Sunday to give to them. We drive by these homes everyday on the way to and from work. They look so peaceful and quiet, reality it is full of loneliness and heartbreak. * I always hope that the best staff is hired on at these places, nothing worse than being locked up and being taken care of by someone who hates their job. Erb seems to enjoy her job, seems to get into taking care of the elderly. I am sure that the people in the facility you work at are happy campers. I am sure they miss their families but having people like you working makes life a lot more bearable.

August

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Sun Jan 27, 2008 12:18 am

How many personal care homes do you drive by everyday and not even know that they are personal care homes, about ten years ago it seemed like they were popping up all over the place. Anyone who had an empty room had a personal care home, I think if you only had three people you did not have to have a license. Finally the state puts some rules down and started inspecting, they shut quite a few down. They were not taking care of the people properly, more or less just collecting their social security check and housing them. So some of the personal care homes were just warehouses out in the community.

goodnatured

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Sun Jan 27, 2008 4:52 am

Good question August, I usually just drive to work and pay no mind, I will have to give it some thought the next time that I am out and about. I am sure there are more than I thought.
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