Ex Wife Refusing to Pay Debts

Submitted by andyth on Fri, 11/06/2009 - 19:19
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Well the easy one first, it will not affect her new husbands credit, unless they apply for something together, like a card or a mortgage or any other scenario that may put the two of them on the same application, but the only thing this would do would be cause a denial, his credit will remain what it is.

I am not real sure what a divorce judge would do, I would try to work something out with her, if you would have continued to pay the credit card then you could have taken her back to court, but at this point you are both in violation of the court order, so I am not real sure that I would drag her back into court unless you are willing to answer to the judge too. That is how the court will more than likely see it, like two wrongs don't make a right type of thinking. I understand, but will a judge, probably not.

Sat, 11/07/2009 - 01:29 Permalink

Hello, yes this sound as if it is a bit of a mess. I imagine this actually may have to go back to court in order to be straightened out. I would not want to personally continue to pay a loan when she is not holding up to her end of the deal. You could explain this to the judge. He or she may be more sympathetic towards you as long as you can show you were faithfully paying until she discontinued her payments. Is the lawyer you had (if you had one) still available to get some advise? If not there are several on line sites where you can ask free legal questions and get answers from real lawyers. Avvo is one and anothe r is law guru.

Sat, 11/07/2009 - 01:47 Permalink

I don't understand why they would break it up like that anyway, shouldn't the debt been given to the primaries of each account. Most divorces don't end on pretty note anyway, so why would the other care about the others credit rating, by not paying would be a good way to get back at the other and why would a judge want you so connected after the mess is over. Having this arrangement does exactly that. Is there a way to get the orders modified so that you are only responsible for the debt that you are the primary on?

How far are you behind on the account that you were supposed to pay, is there a way to clean it up before you attempt to go back to court? You know cover your butt so you can hopefully get the order modified in your favor?

Sat, 11/07/2009 - 01:56 Permalink

That was what I was thinking. The judge really took a big risk in even more problems when he or she assigned the other persons debt to the spouse. You have some really valid points in you post. The only thing I may be able to imagine is if by some chance the ex hubby had some charges that could be proved on the ex wifes account and they equaled more than the interest free loan. For example the hubby has $4500 worth of charges on wifes Credit car and she only has a few charges. The loan may be the littlest amount. Still you think then the judge would have done money settlements instead of this confusing mess. Shame on the judge.

Sat, 11/07/2009 - 02:28 Permalink

Yeah, like split it up between the two of them and make them both liable if you are going to keep them connected like this. Just makes no sense how this was thought out.

Sat, 11/07/2009 - 02:53 Permalink

I have heard of everything now. I sure am glad I didn't have that judge when I got a divorce. I would still be paying my ex bills until I was dead and gone. This makes no sense to me at all. I always thought when you got a divorce unless there were children involved You went your separate ways. This agreement is move like we are getting a divorce and are going to live in the same house.

Sat, 11/07/2009 - 04:31 Permalink